We like to do things that we like, and not what He likes. We like to do our fasting, night prayers, but we keep hating, not giving to our people, and we keep lying. We like to make ourselves pretty yet we seldom clean up ourselves.
A hadits kudtsi said that (God says that): if a person trying to get close to me by doing what I like, I will like him back eventually. And when I like him, My sight becomes his, My hearing becomes his, My arms become what he use to reach out with, and My legs become what he use to walk with.
Thus, it is important to know what He likes. According to the Quran, two of his most favorite people are those who are:
– Just. The kind of justice that can make everybody happy.
– Kind, even to those who have done him wrong.
Complete note of this discussion (In Indonesian) can be downloaded from here.
Accept what can be accepted. Appreciate the difference among us. Each with her/his own’s needs and stage of growth.
I am quoting a quote taken from Mbak Lita’s pages. The thread was originally posted by Ira Lathief in August 2006. The posting was titled “”Don’t know what I’ve got until it’s gone…”
It is in Indonesian, so allow me to translate it to English:
One and a half year ago, my mom passed away. There are so many things that I have not told her.
“Mom.. at last I have been accepted for a job. This is due to your prayer.”
“Mom.. here’s my first paycheck. I should give it all as a present to you.”
“Mom.. I will receive a bonus soon. When I receive it, let’s go on a trip.”
And, when the time comes, I will not be able to tell her..
“Mom.. meet my future husband.”
“Mom.. please give me your blessings, I want to get married.”
“Mom.. this is your grandchild, teach my how to be a great mother like you.”
A mother is like air to breathe to human life. It is so grand yet rarely we notice it, until it is gone.
Here’s to all the mothers in the world. Huge hugs, kisses and love to mine.
Postscript: I forwarded this to a friend. His response was “So, love ur mum, while she is still with you, Va.”
Still from the interview with Yos Luhukay. A person is only limited by her dreams. How brave are we to dream? Perhaps the majority of us are being pragmatic, realistic. Trapped in our current condition.
Don’t be. Let’s start from the end. Try to imagine, have a vision, of what we want to achieve in certain stages of our lives, in terms of career, personal, family and spirituality. After that, back track to what we should do to achive it. What we should do now.
Does what we are doing right now support our vision? Decide on how long we should stay in our current place, what the end target in this place is.
These words have made me think. I can imagine what I want to be. I am questioning whether I have done enough to achieve it. Perhaps not.
I became sad. But sad is not what I should be. I should try. I should do my best. I should be what I want to become.
A brilliant suggestion by Yos Luhukay, during an interview by Trijaya FM last Friday. Wherever you are, make yourself obsolete. Train your people to do what you do, so that you become obsolete (and thus are free to go your merry way whenever you want to).
I recently helped manage an event in my project. All I did was give a bit of suggestions here and there. The rest was my colleagues’ doing. I felt happy and proud to see the event went very well. I felt that I have become obsolete. And I felt happy.
-Perhaps now I can go my merry way. Perhaps I should. Second sign.-
Last week my mom lost a close friend, Bu Zul. The last time I met Bu Zul was about a couple of weeks ago. My family (about 12 of us) had just had a family breakfast in a restaurant. Mom insisted we visited Ibu Zul, bringing her some pancakes from the restaurant.
Bu Zul was lying on her bed. She looked weaker than usual. I was a bit stunned. She looked.. Anyway, each of us kissed her by her cheeks. And to each, she gave us her prayers, different from one to another.
Still, the news came as a surprise somehow. The night before she still called some of her friends. At midnight, her sister called all her children to come to the house.
She had a fall out recently with one of her daughters, but they had reconciled. To her, she asked her forgiveness. The daughter said, “no mom, it was my mistake. I am the one who should apologize.”
Bu Zul asked her to recite a prayer. The daughter did and Bu Zul said amen to every phrase. Then Bu Zul recited her own prayer, in Javanese, and that was it. She passed a way. What a beautiful way to go.
May God grant her with peace and His light for the rest of her journey. Thank you for being such a good and loyal family friend.
[Pic: jasmine, her favourite flower. Taken from here.]