Have you ever heard of “frequency holder”? It is a term coined by Eckhart Tolle to descibe an awake person or people who stay under the radar and live seemingly ordinary lives. An appealing way of living, I must say.
Some while ago I told a friend about it and said, “Perhaps that’s what I am destined to be. A frequency holder, staying under the radar, living a quiet life, and doing normal everyday chores.”
My friend sneared at the idea, “You wish. You are trained in communications. You can write. You have many friends. You’ve studied lots of stuff and traveled far. Go figure.”
Fine. Back to the drawing board then.
My friend was right. I have been blessed with so many gifts in life. From family, friends, intelligence, ability to travel, work, health, emotions, experiences, and encounters with unique individuals with whom I can study and share my journeys with. Endowed with the insatiable yearning to know and desire to serve. Showered with love, gratitude, protection and guidance. Yes, I am a lucky girl. And lucky to know I am lucky.
With gifts come responsibilities. Not in the way of “I have given you such and such, now you owe me and you have to give me such and such.” But more in the way when a child goes to their loving parents and says “I know I was born to be a piano player. I want to be it.”
The parents then pour their heart and soul to see to it that the child can enjoy the best of education and become the greatest piano player possible. That kind of gift. A gift that is in accordance to the child’s potentials and inclinations. To the child’s response-ability.
Response-ability does not bog us down. On the contrary, it frees us. It brings us joy. Because we are simply becoming more of who we are.
The gifts provide hints of our response-ability, and vice versa: (our inkling of) our response-ability may serve as pointers to what gifts we may receive. We can start noticing them if we listen, stay true to them, and allow them to flourish. It is, in fact, only natural to do this. After all, we cannot help but be ourselves.
So let’s take a look around and tell me what you see. What are you moved to respond to? Do you see poverty – what gifts do you have to help end it? Do you see hunger –what gifts do you have to help them obtain nutrition? Do you see violence –what gifts do you have to bring peace? Do you see natural potentials – what gifts do you have to realise them? Do you see human potentials – what gifts do you have that will give them access to opportunities or education? Do you see the beauty of traditions – what gifts do you have to preserve them?
This is simpler than we think — or so I recently learned. There is this lady who likes to provide meals to the homeless. She cooks the meals herself. One day a neighbour of hers came by and said, “I would love to help. I hardly have any money. But I can offer to help you prepare the meals.” And she did. Her gifts were time, ability to cook, and the desire to help. She gave it all. What an inspiration.
Gifts are given every moment. Our path is opening up as we walk it. We are requested to respond to any instant, to the best of our ability. We are asked to do what we can. Not more, but also not less. And always with lightness and joy in our heart.
Let’s start walking. Life does not wait.
Picture taken from here.