I have heard it before on one of Adyashanti’s talks a long time ago. A member of the audience spoke of her partner—how she loved him and how she was confident of his potentials. Adya’s question was simple: will you still love him ten years from now if he does not change? If he does not lift off to the so-called potentials? She went silent. That was enough of a response.
I heard it again recently. From Rupert Spira. When we are aware of our ‘less desirable ’ situations, like an illness or a physical condition, can we be okay with having it all our life? If it does not heal or does not ‘improve’, would it be just as okay for us?
When I heard it the first time, I thought I have got it. Then years after I heard the second one. I realised I had not got it just yet. My mind shifted to how I felt about certain conditions. What if I live the way I live now for the rest of my life? What if I am the way I am forever? Am I okay with it?
The honest response was: no. My mind might argue that it goes against nature, which is in constant changes. But is it really the reason for my saying no? Again the answer is, to be honest, no. It is not. Not yet anyhow. There are parts of me I would prefer (not) have. There are conditions in the world that I would prefer (not) change.
This is where I am at the moment. I do not have an answer, only question: What is the proper place of preference?